I'm a mom, a therapist, and a woman who knows what it's like for life to be messy, difficult, and hard to make sense of. I've turned to the self-help books and the programs hoping they'd make things click, and deliver on the life-changing promises they made. But there was always a slight feeling of panicked urgency around them — like I needed to make a million changes now, and to listen to an authority outside of myself. Inevitably, the changes didn't stick.
What I've learned through the twists and turns of my own life is this: the right answer is always the one that comes from you. And if something isn't sticking — if change feels impossibly hard — the system is broken, not you.
I’ve been there too
We've all been many different people throughout our lives. The reactive teenager. The feisty toddler. The people-pleaser who learned that keeping the peace kept her safe.
We carry all of those versions of ourselves with us. They developed survival tactics that made sense at the time — but those same tactics are often what's keeping you stuck now. That shows up as anxiety, anger, perfectionism, people-pleasing, depression. The feeling of knowing exactly what you should do and not being able to actually do it.
My work is about helping you get to know those parts — healing your relationship with past versions of yourself and getting back in touch with who you actually are now. My goal is for you to leave a session with easier access to your own voice, not with something I said stuck in your head.
How I work
I'm probably not the right fit if you're looking for a structured program or a specific set of answers. I work best with women who are highly motivated, already doing the work, and ready to trust themselves as the authority on their own lives — not hand that authority over to me.
If that sounds like you, I'd love to connect.
Is this a fit?
Alyza McMillin, M.Ed., LPCC (She/Her)
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor
Ohio License No. E.2404808
Texas License No. 89934
Trained in EMDR